a different kind of accountability + a whole lot of deflection

A friend recently posted something that's changed how I view the gun control debate:

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This really blew my mind. His logic, as he explained in later comments, was that he supports a larger ban than most gun owners want. Therefore, if those who want to continue owning guns should be accountable to the consequences of shootings. I loved his ideas, and I loved that expressed some so clearly and directly, without aggression.

Many people agreed. But of course, the deflection happened immediately:

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"I follow the laws. You know it's hard to tell when people are breaking the law, right? It's not my responsibility to figure out what to do with those people."

This was the gun owner's favorite rationale:

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Did you catch the "not my responsibility" part? No? You'll get it again.

I chimed in, now that this person kept pushing to avoid the discussion. My friend backed me up:

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The more my friend asserted his position, the more I appreciated his reasoning. And the more I witnessed the deflection, the more I realized the people avoiding knew it too.

She kept trying to shirk responsibility:

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"AGAIN, it's not my responsibility!"

This time I refuted her refusal to acknowledge responsibility, and my friend backed me up again:

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She was determined to avoid, just as I was determined to confront:

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"People who break the law are often good at hiding their intentions. Legislators are TOO! How am I supposed to do ANYTHING?"

She kept insisting, to the point that I was fed up. This is about as aggressive as I'll get—I don't call people names; I don't insult anything. But I do curse freely to show my irritation:

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My cursing must have hit a nerve, because suddenly her beliefs changed. After 5 comments insisting that she didn't need to be part of the debate, she finally explained that EVERYONE should be part of the debate! Along with the typical ways to stray off topic: bring in families, the media. I was surprised she didn't mention video games:

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However, there was a point of confusion I thought worthy of addressing, given her repeated statements of "not my responsibility":

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Admittedly, this gets personal for me, given my many years of teaching in schools.

She was so sure at proving me the fool:

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Ah yes, ignorance from recalling what one has read! I feel so dissed.

My next 2 comments were screenshots you've already seen above—her explicit statements of "not my responsibility."

Then, AFTER ALL THAT, she finally got a little more articulate. How?

"It is not my responsibility alone."

The only thing beyond that were insults to me—always a sign that she doesn't have actual grounds for her position.

Later in the thread, I commended my friend. He was grateful:

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